If you think about it, breakup and divorce are far from being the worst things a woman can stumble across, as many would have you believe! You know who you are and you know what you want. On top of that, you’re more established in your career, your rough edges have been smoothed over, and you don’t let the small things in life distract you or get you down. And if you find yourself facing singledom—whether or not you want to be—we’d argue that there’s a lot to be excited about, even if it doesn’t feel that way at first. That’s why we’ve compiled all of the best reasons to fly solo in your fifth decade, starting with one simple fact: you can begin your days focusing on one and only one thing: you.
1. ZERO OBLIGATIONS
Stay out late, sleep in, eat any food you like, behave badly on a night out. As a single person, you are free to do what you want when you want without being accountable to another person. No one can tell you what to do, when to do it, or that they don’t like what you’re doing—because it’s none of their business. There’s something pretty liberating about that. Singles too often take freedom for granted. When you take advantage of this reality, the single life becomes much more desirable—and harder to let go of.
2.YOU CAN SPEND MONEY HOWEVER YOU WANT
You may want to go on a vacation for the weekend, go get Botox, or go to an expensive play. If you are single, you don’t have to run it past anyone other than yourself. You don’t have to ask your partner, for example, if there’s room in the budget for that new necklace or watch—hey, you could even buy a private island (which is cheaper than you think)!
3.YOU CAN PURSUE THAT IMPRACTICAL DREAM JOB
Want to go for a career that requires logging long hours, tons of travel, or moving to another country? Yes, you can absolutely do these things if you are attached, but it’s a lot easier if you’re flying solo. Many people turn down or put opportunities on hold for relationships and then regret it later when they don’t have a new opportunity or their life just doesn’t allow for it anymore. So go ahead and do something exciting with your career—there’s no reason not to.
4.YOU CAN MAKE YOUR BEDROOM COMFORTABLE FOR YOU
“You make all the rules,” says Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, relationship therapist and founder of online relationship community Relationup. “You determine the temperature, the type of covers, the level of darkness, what side you want to sleep on, and the time you are going to wake up in the morning. There is no snoring, shuffling, sneezing, coughing or early morning to bathroom runs to disturb your sleep.” Sounds pretty great, right? If you still need some help falling asleep, though, try these 11 Doctor-Approved Secrets for Falling Asleep Faster—Tonight.
5.THAT FREE TIME? IT’S YOURS
“You don’t have to worry about arguing about what you want to watch, how you want to spend your weekends, or whose house you are going to for the holidays,” Safran notes. “Sometimes just getting to be alone, enjoying activities that matter to you, can be a lot better than being in a relationship.”
6.YOU HAVE TIME TO GET IN SHAPE
Slimming down or toning up can be extra challenging when you have a romantic partner. Plus, sometimes just being in a relationship can cause people to pack on the pounds. “For many people, being in a relationship consumes all of their discretionary time and they tend to neglect other important aspects of life, like physical health,” Drenner says. When you’re not part of a couple, it’s easier to skip unhealthy meals that don’t help you meet your goals and prioritize healthier behaviors.
7.YOU CAN DESIGN YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
When you ask most people what their biggest goal in life is, they’ll tell you it’s to be happy. Luckily, being single actually makes it easier to accomplish that goal. “When you are single, you have the greatest flexibility to create your happiness,” explains Scott Carroll, MD, author of Don’t Settle: How the Marry the Man You Were Meant For. “The trick is helping people understand that you have to construct your life to promote your happiness and that your relationship status doesn’t really make you happy (but a bad marriage or relationship can sure make you miserable).”
To be continued…